God Guy by Michael DiMarco

Author:Michael DiMarco
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Published: 2009-10-01T04:00:00+00:00

Put Others First

The backbone of the God Guy is that he isn’t about “me” all the time. He lives outside of himself. He sees other people and takes notice of their pain, their joy, their fear. He is forever thinking from an eternal perspective and is confident enough in his relationship with Christ to know that life is not about him but about loving others so that they might know Christ as he does.

That’s why in all his speech, he puts others first. He doesn’t monopolize conversations, insisting others hear all about his feelings and thoughts. But he asks a lot of questions and listens to the answers. He draws people out. He doesn’t talk to be heard or to feel better. And he knows that if what he has to say is only to make himself feel good, then it’s best if it’s not said. He isn’t self-seeking and doesn’t need the approval of others to be secure, so he takes his baggage and his stuff to his God and lets others be free from the burden. That means that talking with him is easy. He doesn’t always turn the conversation back to himself, and he responds to what people are saying with more than an “Oh,” or “I see.” He makes conversation about things that interest the people he is talking to. Talking has become a selfish activity for many, but for the God Guy it is an opportunity to give others the gift of human interaction and support.

When in doubt,

TALK.

The biggest trap for a lot of guys when it comes to communication is that we don’t talk. People need us to talk in order to be heard. So even if you don’t have anything to say, ask questions and show you are listening by agreeing with what the person is saying or encouraging them to tell you more. And in all your speech, always be thinking of balance. Listen well but also be willing to share yourself a little.

If you find it hard to talk much, then open up the ears and think about trying some of these things next time you’re going to hang out with someone:

1. Pray for them. Before you meet up with someone, pray for them. Praying for them gets your mind on the big picture and off of yourself.

2. Get some questions. Before you go, think of at least five things you want to ask the person about themselves. Like an interviewer interviewing a famous person, take some time to think about what you could ask them that would start a good conversation about them.

3. Praise them. Try to find at least two things about them to praise. When you are looking for the good in them, you won’t be thinking about yourself as much.

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